The mistakes after a break up

Sometimes it can be really hard to manage after a break up. I know that the feeling of loneliness will encompass your life dramatically and sometimes you are willing to talk to anyone to get over such feeling. DON'T!

So you decide that yes I am strong. So strong that you put on an almost believable mask but people see through these masks. Trust me they do. Even though the mask hides the tears, it wont hide your action and voice.

There is this promise you made to that person you broke up with;  no sex until marriage or what ever it may be. After the break up you want him/her to feel sorry for breaking up with you so you turn to something so drastic to violate the promise. To violate yourself so as soon as the first person comes along you break the promise. Then you say to yourself while laughing at your ex, he/she would have gotten it if he/she had stayed with you. You are just hurting yourself.

You want to be heard so sometimes you act too strong, while other times you act too weak. Both extremes show how vulnerable you are. Everything in life requires a balance. Think back before a relationship when you were truly happy. You were never too weak or too strong. You had a sense of balance. You knew how to think and knew when you could actually count on someone.

One week passed or maybe even two and the first person that showed you interest you instantly found attractive. You are lonely and it is eating you inside out.

Being too strong: A strong no the first time to someone saying hello just shows that you have been in a rough patch. He/she will consider you a challenge and will help you through that patch. You start to feel affection for him/her caring and you start to think he/she is the one but beware............. you escape out of that previous patch to land in a new one. One that might be rougher than before.

Being too weak: Saying yes to someone saying hello shows you are such an easy target. He sees the definite opportunity to use you and I don't want that.

Solution: 
What is the best way to over come such situation: The answer is simply to wait and not rush. 
Spend quality time with friends and have fun. Try to forget about your pain before progressing. Relax your mind and learn to think properly again. No sex, no porn. Just forget about a sexual life for now. Do something you honestly in your heart love doing, whether it be drawing, singing, driving or writing songs. For those in schools don't forget your studying. It will take your mind off things.

Try to forget. Don't be upset with your ex nor happy. If your ex is your friend,a true friend, then I can imagine you still talking to him/her but learn restrictions and learn to control yourself around him/her.

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