So you see a girl you want to talk to, but...darn it you see another guy in her group.
Most guys will back down instead of approaching that girl because he is either afraid of the guy's reaction that is next to her, he is nervous that the guy might laugh/ mock him, or he is afraid that guy might want to fight him.
This is not true at all. The majority of guys will not do anything at all.
Why? Because it is just illogical for a guy to do anything if you follow this guide.
First of all if he is not going out with her, it would be way over line to fight you for her.
Second of all if he is going out with her, you will find out in the first few seconds and move on from that.
So the easiest question to ask when you see such a situation is to gently ask the girl , "Is this your boyfriend?" or "Are any of these guys your boyfriend?"
If the answer is yes, you can calmly reply with "okay I just had to find out for myself. You are very cute and I just wanted to say Hi." Then you leave.
If the answer is no, you can proceed to flirt with her.
It is great to respect a girl's relationship, do not force on her if she is taken. Girls of status dislike guys with such mentality.
Now if you have established that she is single. You can comfortably talk to the girl as if the guy was not there.
The key note: HITTING ON HER AS IF THE GUY WAS NOT EVEN THERE.
Guys tend to get nervous and numb up when they realize another guy is watching them hit on a girl.
If you convince yourself that he is not really there, then you have nothing to worry about. It would feel like as if he is really not there.
If you can't convince yourself, that he is not there. You can calmly tell the guy, "I will be flirting with her for a while, so we will be right over there." Then walk her a few feet away. It clears the pressure to know that a guy is not listening over your shoulder.
So what about if the guys make remarks trying to make you look bad. The thing to do here is ignore them. Don't smile, don't look, don't stop doing what you are doing, make it seem as if you never heard a sound. They will start to look stupid. Just completely ignore them and act like they do not exist.
It is rare though to find guys that will make that dumb remark for a girl they are not going out with. So don't worry.
Finally use your common sense. Don't go and approach a girl you see making out with a dude on a bench.
But if you see a girl in a group you can go up to her and simply ask if she us going out with someone. DON'T assume that a girl is with a guy just because they are walking to class together. So just ask and remember show respect.
Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Thursday, March 14, 2013
The Perfect FINANCIAL Status in a Marriage
Ever so often I hear females saying they want to marry a guy with a stable job and making loads of cash. Same goes for males wanting to the same thing. People sometimes classify this as the "perfect financial status" in a marriage. Would you want your marriage to consists of such characteristics? Think about it carefully.
Problems arise when both partners in a relationship have loads of money.
Partners stop working together, and the level of communication decreases. That is because they don't really need each other for anything except "love." There is no need to speak about how the next bill will be paid and no need to ask the another partner for money because both already have money.
Kids might be the only things holding you together but as time progressed you will be attached to your kids and not to your partner. In a good marriage you need to be attached to both partner and your child.
It all leads down to this: Two wealthy persons in a marriage build a less stable relationship than if one partner is wealthy or no partner is wealthy.
But still we do dream at times to be successful and to marry to another successful person.
There is one major way to make it work and it is to WORK TOGETHER. Whether it means building a family company with shared responsibilities so a constant communication is established or going after a goal in life that will cost much more than your wealth can afford. You just need to find something that enables you to work together to achieve, because only focusing on your personal job and carrying the cash home, will only make you happy until a problem comes a long. A problem between you and your partner, a problem you will easily give up on because of lack of communication.
All that will lead to is divorce. There goes your 'perfect' marriage, down the drain.
Problems arise when both partners in a relationship have loads of money.
Partners stop working together, and the level of communication decreases. That is because they don't really need each other for anything except "love." There is no need to speak about how the next bill will be paid and no need to ask the another partner for money because both already have money.
Kids might be the only things holding you together but as time progressed you will be attached to your kids and not to your partner. In a good marriage you need to be attached to both partner and your child.
It all leads down to this: Two wealthy persons in a marriage build a less stable relationship than if one partner is wealthy or no partner is wealthy.
But still we do dream at times to be successful and to marry to another successful person.
There is one major way to make it work and it is to WORK TOGETHER. Whether it means building a family company with shared responsibilities so a constant communication is established or going after a goal in life that will cost much more than your wealth can afford. You just need to find something that enables you to work together to achieve, because only focusing on your personal job and carrying the cash home, will only make you happy until a problem comes a long. A problem between you and your partner, a problem you will easily give up on because of lack of communication.
All that will lead to is divorce. There goes your 'perfect' marriage, down the drain.
Saturday, March 9, 2013
The mistakes after a break up
Sometimes it can be really hard to manage after a break up. I know that the feeling of loneliness will encompass your life dramatically and sometimes you are willing to talk to anyone to get over such feeling. DON'T!
So you decide that yes I am strong. So strong that you put on an almost believable mask but people see through these masks. Trust me they do. Even though the mask hides the tears, it wont hide your action and voice.
There is this promise you made to that person you broke up with; no sex until marriage or what ever it may be. After the break up you want him/her to feel sorry for breaking up with you so you turn to something so drastic to violate the promise. To violate yourself so as soon as the first person comes along you break the promise. Then you say to yourself while laughing at your ex, he/she would have gotten it if he/she had stayed with you. You are just hurting yourself.
You want to be heard so sometimes you act too strong, while other times you act too weak. Both extremes show how vulnerable you are. Everything in life requires a balance. Think back before a relationship when you were truly happy. You were never too weak or too strong. You had a sense of balance. You knew how to think and knew when you could actually count on someone.
One week passed or maybe even two and the first person that showed you interest you instantly found attractive. You are lonely and it is eating you inside out.
Being too strong: A strong no the first time to someone saying hello just shows that you have been in a rough patch. He/she will consider you a challenge and will help you through that patch. You start to feel affection for him/her caring and you start to think he/she is the one but beware............. you escape out of that previous patch to land in a new one. One that might be rougher than before.
Being too weak: Saying yes to someone saying hello shows you are such an easy target. He sees the definite opportunity to use you and I don't want that.
Solution:
What is the best way to over come such situation: The answer is simply to wait and not rush.
Spend quality time with friends and have fun. Try to forget about your pain before progressing. Relax your mind and learn to think properly again. No sex, no porn. Just forget about a sexual life for now. Do something you honestly in your heart love doing, whether it be drawing, singing, driving or writing songs. For those in schools don't forget your studying. It will take your mind off things.
Try to forget. Don't be upset with your ex nor happy. If your ex is your friend,a true friend, then I can imagine you still talking to him/her but learn restrictions and learn to control yourself around him/her.
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So you decide that yes I am strong. So strong that you put on an almost believable mask but people see through these masks. Trust me they do. Even though the mask hides the tears, it wont hide your action and voice.
There is this promise you made to that person you broke up with; no sex until marriage or what ever it may be. After the break up you want him/her to feel sorry for breaking up with you so you turn to something so drastic to violate the promise. To violate yourself so as soon as the first person comes along you break the promise. Then you say to yourself while laughing at your ex, he/she would have gotten it if he/she had stayed with you. You are just hurting yourself.
You want to be heard so sometimes you act too strong, while other times you act too weak. Both extremes show how vulnerable you are. Everything in life requires a balance. Think back before a relationship when you were truly happy. You were never too weak or too strong. You had a sense of balance. You knew how to think and knew when you could actually count on someone.
One week passed or maybe even two and the first person that showed you interest you instantly found attractive. You are lonely and it is eating you inside out.
Being too strong: A strong no the first time to someone saying hello just shows that you have been in a rough patch. He/she will consider you a challenge and will help you through that patch. You start to feel affection for him/her caring and you start to think he/she is the one but beware............. you escape out of that previous patch to land in a new one. One that might be rougher than before.
Being too weak: Saying yes to someone saying hello shows you are such an easy target. He sees the definite opportunity to use you and I don't want that.
Solution:
What is the best way to over come such situation: The answer is simply to wait and not rush.
Spend quality time with friends and have fun. Try to forget about your pain before progressing. Relax your mind and learn to think properly again. No sex, no porn. Just forget about a sexual life for now. Do something you honestly in your heart love doing, whether it be drawing, singing, driving or writing songs. For those in schools don't forget your studying. It will take your mind off things.
Try to forget. Don't be upset with your ex nor happy. If your ex is your friend,a true friend, then I can imagine you still talking to him/her but learn restrictions and learn to control yourself around him/her.
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INTRODUCTION: A little bit about me
All About Me
You can call me Renhard. I am a bit young if you ask me but my mind is mature. I am analytical and I analyse almost everything in my life to the smallest detail. I observe people, technology and life in general but this blog will be more focused on people. I have guided many people through a relationship and I have provided assistance to every one who was willing to ask.
Goal and Achievements:
I was in the top 5% of everything I did relating to education. I am very determine and no matter what goes in my path I try my best to overcome it. I thankfully received over 15 trophies for all I did.
My goal is to become one of the best neurosurgeons alive.
So yes I am interested in the brain. Sometimes I just sit down and think about how others think. How do they react to a situation, and how do their brains and heart tell varying or similar stories.
ENOUGH ABOUT ME
I will be creating a post once a week relating to relationships.
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You can call me Renhard. I am a bit young if you ask me but my mind is mature. I am analytical and I analyse almost everything in my life to the smallest detail. I observe people, technology and life in general but this blog will be more focused on people. I have guided many people through a relationship and I have provided assistance to every one who was willing to ask.
Goal and Achievements:
I was in the top 5% of everything I did relating to education. I am very determine and no matter what goes in my path I try my best to overcome it. I thankfully received over 15 trophies for all I did.
My goal is to become one of the best neurosurgeons alive.
So yes I am interested in the brain. Sometimes I just sit down and think about how others think. How do they react to a situation, and how do their brains and heart tell varying or similar stories.
ENOUGH ABOUT ME
I will be creating a post once a week relating to relationships.
Please look forward to it and remember to share with your friends and family. You wont be disappointed.
SUBSCRIBE AND LEAVE COMMENTS BELOW
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